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Confessions of a Clergy Wife (see also "Videos" heading)

About the Show: 

It's Barbara's own fresh and lively spiritual journey in which she questions and salutes her priest, her husband, and her therapist, quoting Thich Nhat Hanh & Joseph Campbell... Musical accompaniment is by Jeff Sebens. The 45-minute performance has led to thought-provoking discussions wherever it has played.  

It has been the focus of a National Episcopal Convention, Diocesan retreats, fundraisers, ecumenical gatherings, churches (even St. Jude's, Cupertino CA), and stage productions.

Barbara's late husband Russell,  physician-turned-minister, served at St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church, in Canton, North Carolina.

"The show is a zinger…compelling, authentic, brave" says Frank Levering, D.D., Harvard.  

Judith Toy, Buddhist leader, says "intelligent," "spirit fed," "hilarious!"  

“Outstanding!”The Reverend Tim McRee, St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church, called it.

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("C-Word" plays first; "Clergy Wife" starts at 3 minutes in)

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(Intro: Academics have called it a post-modern”piece; I have no idea what this means…They say ”it reflects ‘where the church is perched today’.”  I hope that means it's relevant.) 

To The Reverend Timothy McRee, St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church, Canton NC
Dear Tim: I can’t say “Father” Tim. I’m sorry. I guess it’s my hang-up with the church- & I have so many questions…
because now my own husband Russell has left his medical practice to become a clergyman himself… But first let me say: I am so glad he found you &  St. Andrew’s, & that you could fit him in as your “deacon.”…It’s hard to explain the term “deacon” to others, how he’s actually been ordained & all that. I just say it’s a service ministry: no pay, but his wife gets to use the copy machine.

And, Tim- I’ve been reading Bishop Spong. Is it so controversial to take the focus off creeds and rules, and to put it on Jesus’s clear and simple message to “love one another?” And therefore to confront racism and poverty and homophobia?

Tim, isn’t Thich Nhat Hanh bridging the East-West gap with his concept of Jesus and the Buddha as brothers in a sense?  “Both the Buddha and Jesus realized that life is filled with suffering; they both made every effort to offer a way out. ”

          Maybe I can be a Buddha being and a Jesus being at the same time! Maybe I am.


Recently I've brought my work to the Church of the Advocate in Asheville.  And to Haywood Street Congregation, where I see this spirit alive:  hundreds of homeless folks and handfuls of housed- all ages, all colors, being nourished by fellowship as well as food. 
        "Who wants to ask the blessing?" (Hand goes up.)

        "There ain't never been no day like this one before, & we thank God for it."

We're all "in the moment." All children of God. All Buddha Beings... Thank you, Jesus, for this breakthrough.